about parenting.
these couple of months about parenting hasn’t been a really smooth journey. there are happy days and sad days. frustrating days and depressing days.
yesterday was one of those depressing days. 2 wasted movie tickets and my mood hit rock bottom. it’s not about the tickets. it was about expectations, protocols and doing the right thing, and being in sync with your partner. and getting support from your family.
all those pent-up frustration just came down in big, fat tears.
and you know what?
as parents, any pockets of me-time is a stolen, not a given.
and i wish, everyone could understand and agree with me on that.
the moment you decide to have the kid, i feel that is is also a decision to give up whatever social life or lifestyle you lead.
Cherie
Hi there! Thanks for popping by. I'm Cherie, a ftwm (full-time working mum) to 3 lovely kids (2 boys & a princess) and my motto in life is to BE HAPPY. Sure, life isn't all that smooth but it's the mentality that counts, no? This blog documents my life. Or rather, snippets of my life that has passed me by. I love capturing life memories in the blog and being able to read back and laugh at myself (or anyone). I love to eat (A LOT), travel and paint my own nails so the blog is mostly about that. Is that considered lifestyle? Of cos, the family is also very much an integral part of me so there would be loads of memories about the husband and my kids - Jerry (9yo), Jerome (7yo) and Leia (2.5yo) and everyone else that's close to me. I like documenting the kids' milestones, their growing up years, their achievements (and sometimes, mine), and my struggles and battles with motherhood. It sure ain't easy. I love seeking out good food and travelling, is trigger-happy, love new gadgets, love exploring new places and strives to live life to the fullest. I aspire to travel the world as much as I can, to soak in the different sights across the various continents and visit all the Disneylands in the world (almost there!). Have fun reading and do drop me a comment to say hi! Love, Cherie Lim Find me on Instagram.
12 Comments
jzlyn
hugs
cherieladieblogs
thanks dear. 🙂
ikedee
U’re right in saying that any pockets of me-time are stolen away from the kids. But I find going back to work gives me some time away, legitimate reason and I can restore some sanity back. So, given a choice, I will still choose to go back to work.
Sad but true, being parents involves losing quite a bit of ourselves. But don’t worry, it will get better as you go along!
Cheer up babe! 😀
cherieladieblogs
you know? i do think going back to work will give me back some sanity – at these i have a couple of hours away from the baby!
but i guess not everyone is on the same level and/or understand that. :/
ikedee
It’s very different perspective 🙂 that’s fine cos some mothers I know, enjoy spending time at home with their children. But for me, I’m a little bit of a free spirit in the mind, need to break free at times.
Each and every of us have our own ways of coping with these stress too. Just hope your hubby is on same page as u 🙂
cherieladieblogs
your last sentence is the gist of all my angst actually. -_-“
pishako
totally abt gg back to work.. it’s more fun, you can maintain yourself, remember yourself, be yourself instead of being a mother 24/7.
pishako
It is true that you give up part of your lifestyle. We used to have 100% of the time to ourselves but this 100% is now shared with family and kid. Unavoidably, you have less time for yourself.
However, the time given to Jerry is not lost time. He gives you more reason to smile, more reason to love and even at the point of being cliche, I think kids are so innocent that they bring joy to people around them.
I don’t know what transpired to cause the missing of the movies but having Jerry in your life is worth it.. in spite of the unhappiness or issues that cause disruptions to your life. *hugs*
jzlyn
Well put Wenmei!
We were in Italy and I see Clover lighting up the scene everywhere. Makes strangers smile when she smiles, etc.
cherieladieblogs
🙂 i know where u guys are coming from.. i feel the same too.. 🙂
cherieladieblogs
hahha. im not saying that Jerry is not worth it, just that i needed someone to be on the same page as me.
i do feel drained caring for him 24/7 but i feel irritated when people who get time off caring him, tells me that he wants me-time cos he is v tired from work. =(
its complicated. maybe can tell you more next time when we meet!
Anonymous
It will get better… It’s a sacrifice if you choose to be a SAHM… But I try to make the most of it and be positive, cos they will only be a little baby once (and for a short period of time, in the large scheme of things!)…. You can ALWAYS make money, but you CAN NOT always have that time with your baby…
Things like responsibilities, organisational skills, logisics, caring for the kid, pressure, stress – it’s all there… But as they grow older, these all change.. And it gets better…. Chloe is now 2.5 years old and the responsibilities and pressures change according to their age… I feel more “free” and they are less dependent on me… When they get to school age – you will have more time… So, enjoy the moment while it lasts…
🙂 Daze xxx