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ever since the new not-so-new-anymore job, i feel that my life has taken a dip and there hasn’t been as much cheer in my life. there were lesser laughters, less fun and it had really became monotonous. most of the days is just work and home for me now. stepping into orchard road is becoming a rarity.
just yesterday, michelle told me the umpteen time in the past few months that it’s quite unhealthy and i should really consider my job if it’s eating into my life. i haven’t seen her in months when we used to have lunch/dinner dates at least once or twice each month.
while i think i am happy on the job (learning stuff, having challenges and nice colleagues), i am beginning to realise that maybe, i am not happy at all. i live in a constant fear, frantically thinking about my work, freaking about where there will be a bomb (read: scolding from boss) landing on me anytime soon. in the hours not in the office, i will think and fret if there is anything i have left undone. i have not realised that i am now more short-tempered, snapping more often at people. even wei has commented that i seemed to be a different person now.
i just went to check on my stats for my livejournal. there has been an extreme dip as well. i think facts are slapping in my face that my life ain’t what it used to be. the moment i had internet access in kl 2 days ago, my first reaction was to log on and check my work emails. on the night train back to singapore, i was planning about my calendar for the coming december and next year. it’s scary. work is really eating me up unconsciously, and its really not what i want.
should i seriously reconsider moving on to somewhere else where my work isnt eating my life away.. or should i really learn to let go my job and not fret so much?
i need some thinking time.
Cherie
Hi there! Thanks for popping by. I'm Cherie, a ftwm (full-time working mum) to 3 lovely kids (2 boys & a princess) and my motto in life is to BE HAPPY. Sure, life isn't all that smooth but it's the mentality that counts, no? This blog documents my life. Or rather, snippets of my life that has passed me by. I love capturing life memories in the blog and being able to read back and laugh at myself (or anyone). I love to eat (A LOT), travel and paint my own nails so the blog is mostly about that. Is that considered lifestyle? Of cos, the family is also very much an integral part of me so there would be loads of memories about the husband and my kids - Jerry (9yo), Jerome (7yo) and Leia (2.5yo) and everyone else that's close to me. I like documenting the kids' milestones, their growing up years, their achievements (and sometimes, mine), and my struggles and battles with motherhood. It sure ain't easy. I love seeking out good food and travelling, is trigger-happy, love new gadgets, love exploring new places and strives to live life to the fullest. I aspire to travel the world as much as I can, to soak in the different sights across the various continents and visit all the Disneylands in the world (almost there!). Have fun reading and do drop me a comment to say hi! Love, Cherie Lim Find me on Instagram.
23 Comments
vonique
*hugs. maybe due to stress in work, but give urself some leeway kaes? cheers to a gd week ahead!
cherieladieblogs
thanks girl! so sweet of ya.. 🙂
wwenzz
No doubt catching u is a harder thing to do now, you’re still in my heart! Guess it’s all about how you manage your life well. Strike a balance between ur work and life. If that’s not possible, just ensure you still have some personal time for you to unwind and enjoy. Don’t fret so much.. when it comes to play, play hard and ditch those work thoughts.
cherieladieblogs
yeah. i play hard over the weekends, but its not enuff! i need more friends and laughters! 🙂
ok. so u know what to do.. date me when u are free.. i’ll ditch the work and date u instead! ;P
zazoom
Where work is concerned, there is seldom such thing as 100% fool proof and tha boss got nothing bad to say. So don’t be so hard on yourself.
Bear in mind that while you slog your life away at work, your boss will not appreciate it cos when you go, they will find someone to take over you. Nobody is indispensable or irreplaceable at work.
However once your personal life is lost, it is irreversible. Like special time lost with your family cannot be found back but you can only try to treasure the time ahead. To your family & closed ones, you are irreplaceable.
All in all, whatever one do, there will be one that is happy at you and one who is unhappy with you. You just have to do what you feel happy with.
cherieladieblogs
yeah. thanks for the advice.. i sorta know that already.. but cos im new in the job.. i thought i should give my best and make it stable first.. but seems like its not happening..
but cool.. im feeling better today! 🙂
zazoom
Yay. Happy that you are happy! Keep ur chin up babe. U are doing fine.
cherieladieblogs
*winks*
*blurp* wah.. i am so FULL after a long & heavy lunch! i want to sleep now..
Anonymous
Hi Cherie,
i been following ur blog. Cheer up…i guess it could be cos u are still considered pretty new to your job, its only natural to want to do well and not make any mistakes ya.
Stay positive!
Lynn
cherieladieblogs
Hi lynn,
thanks for dropping me a note of encouragement! that’s exactly how i feel.. 🙂
but i think i have sort out my thoughts.. my social life come first! 🙂
cheers,
cherie
Anonymous
Balance is the word i suppose ya…. but u are a really “colourful” gal with all your friends u have.. 🙂
Most importantly ur bf does understand ur situation
Anonymous
By the way, just curious ya, u went to cambodia for a holiday trip?
I was thinking of making a trip there too….maybe next year!
Lynn
cherieladieblogs
yup. i’ll post up the pictures soon, hopefully tonight or tomorrow night..
so u can take a look and decide if it’s the place u wanna go.. but in terms of cheapness.. it’s aint cheap cos everything is in usd.. 🙂
cherieladieblogs
yup. i hope he understands.. havent had much time to talk to him these days..
Anonymous
Thank you for ur info on cambodia…u are a very adventerous person. Guess i could relate to you,cos i like to do such stuffs too!
Hope u having a good day at work so far…keep ur faith high and going!
Cheers
Lynn
cherieladieblogs
🙂 no probs on the info.. i’m not that adventurous lah.. just quite a monkey, that’s all.
work is never good, but my 心情 is very GOOD today! 🙂
unpolished_gem
yes, you need some PROPER thinking time. and we need to talk about this soon…. before i remind you for the 29458th time that you need to re-evaluate your life balance. =)
cherieladieblogs
hee hee.. yes MUMMY. 😛
unpolished_gem
grrrrrrr…….
cherieladieblogs
hee hee hee *giggles like mad*
pishako
You should know I am quite a pragmatic person – I think this job can aid in a lot in your career progression; you have already invested 6months into this job of yours, quite wasted to walk away from it.
I think you need to detach yourself from work when you are off work or you’ll be killing your sanity.
The most important thing is to love what you do and be proud.
cherieladieblogs
Hmmm.. true to a certain extend. i have decided to stick to the work here and see how it goes.
for all i know, i could make it work for me. 🙂
cherieladieblogs
u want me to hit you issit?