My little boy, Jerome.
Today is a day that I rejoice! Finally, the 3 weeks of solo parenting is OVER! The government returned my husband to me last night and even though I was stuck in a class till almost midnight, there is so much to be happy about!
One of them is, of cos, moving back into my own home later today. Can’t wait. I miss my bed!
While the solo parenting has been somewhat tough and extremely tiring, I got to bond a lot with my little kid, Jerome.
He was stuck to me at the hip almost everyday when I was on leave for a week and boy, did we have fun! I also realised that I haven’t had the chance to pay more attention to him as I had with Jerry, but I learned so much more about him during the week we both were stuck together 24/7.
It’s really quite amazing.
I found out his comprehension level is pretty good and I could pretty much get (short) opinionated replies from him. He can definitely understand/talk more than I give him credit more. He can form short short sentences to request for things, complete with a “plisss”. It’s quite cute to hear!
He negotiates with me in his own little way (No! Hurmph! Ngh-Ngh *shakes head*) and often drags me around the house for things that he wants me to give him or unable to reach himself.
While he can play solitarily, I observed that he likes to be in the same room as someone else. Say, he is quietly playing in room A and I make a exit while he is engrossed in play… He would notice my absence and run around the house to find me, and stay close to me. It’s very endearing yet, frustrating while I try to get chores done or cook. Because of that, I hardly cooked because it is not really safe and I ended up packing food on most days. Also partly because I was too tired/lazy to wash more things.
He isn’t really posing here actually. He was just waiting by the wall and I found it really cute like he was posing for an #ootd. He is like a little adult himself and so different from Jerry. He doesn’t ask for hugs, he isn’t needy or whiny at all, and readily gives hugs and kisses when asked. His favourite routine when he wakes up every morning is to go grab his shoes because he knows we have to send the gor gor (Jerry) to school!
It will be his turn going to the school in 1 month’s time and I am pretty sure he is going to thrive. He doesn’t quite have strangers’ anxiety, he usually observes his surroundings quietly and it is like he is making a mental checklist of what he can and cannot do. Parenting him is such a different experience from Jerry.
He can easily name his favourite toys – Prime, BaBee (BumbleBee), Boulder, Chase, Thomas! When I am driving, he points out all the trees and tell me, “Mama! Trees! Trees!” and some times, “Train!”, “Truck!” or “Bus!!”.
He also somewhat understands that we are pretty stuck to each other and kept asking me the whole week, “Papa! where? Ah Ma! Where? Ah Gooo! Where?” and runs around the house going, “Ah ma! Where are you?!”.
I even heard stuff like, ” Mama! See! (points to empty bed) Papa go where?”
Super. Duper. Cute.
I don’t remember Jerry doing the same thing at his age. Jerry could only name a few words at 19 months, and I remembered he barely talks when he started school! What a stark difference but being the 2nd kid always have advantages since there is always big brother to learn from.
Just a random note, this shirt is so suited for him. It says “Little but loud!”. That’s what my kid is!
Jerome is also somewhat toilet training ready. As much as I hate to admit it, and would prefer the convenience that comes with diapers… He is really ready. He has been tugging me and dragging me to the toilet and goes “Shhee shhee!!”. I kept thinking that he mistaken “Shee Shee” as potty and put him seated on the toilet bowl, only to have nothing. A few days of repeated scenarios later, it suddenly dawned on me that he really might just mean pee, and I left him standing on the toilet bowl instead. He peed into the toilet bowl alright and left mummy here in amazement. It did happen a few more times after that so I know its no coincidence.
He also haven’t been pooing in his diaper for a long time. If we are home, he usually drags me and points to the toilet door and I would get the cue to put him on the toilet bowl. Where has my baby gone to? Jerry didn’t start toilet training until many months after he started school.
This kid loves taking pictures and recently, he has been trying to form the “V” sign with his fingers. Not there yet, but slowly and surely! He is also quite the monkey. He makes monkey faces or contorts his face to show me. And then, the other day, he stuck his tongue and moved it side by side to mock me! My first reaction was, “WHO TAUGHT HIM THAT?!”.
Ok. I know no one will admit, but I am guessing the biggest culprit is Jerry Choo, my cheeky monster. So now, I probably have two cheeky monsters to deal with.
I never really verified but my kid is like huge as compared to his peers. I think he is easily over the 97th percentile for his age, only a few hundred grams difference in weight as compared to Jerry who is, 20 months older. He is surely going to be taller than Jerry at some point.
Kids really love going out, don’t they?
This kid loves bringing his shoes to the door step to wear his shoes. He attempts to wear them himself. Sometimes succeeding, sometimes not. I recently bought him a pair of tong slippers and he can wear those all by himself alright! YAY to independence!
In the one week that I was on leave and watching after him full time, I also let him have free rein of creativity within a confined environment. I gave him a stool at the corridor one day.. he was staring at it for a while.. sat on it for moments.. and guess what happened?
He sits on the stool for a brief moment, and then realised there is a hole underneath and drove his Optimus Prime to park there. And then, he realises that the car can drives through the hole.. and started pushing them through!
He then spends the next 30 mins doing the following. I like how he explores a simple stool and can have so much fun with it. I honestly prefer this type of exploration play as compared to watching TV or playing some gadgets. They develop motor skills much better this way, and build those muscles in those little fingers and hands.
I have so much fun myself just observing him! I sometimes feel the the hectic lifestyle here is a tad horrible for the kids growing up. It’s so competitive for them and it takes out all the fun in childhood.
As someone who stayed in a kampung attap house till I was 4, kids these days are really missing out a lot of fun. They don’t climb trees, catch fishes, chase chickens and build houses out of twigs, branches and big leaves anymore. They cannot even relate on catching spiders and the spiders they see are probably those “Daddy-Long-Legs” in the house or those in the tanks at the zoo. They probably don’t know spiders also exist underneath leaves in bushes and shrubs, and practically everywhere in a natural environment. I honestly miss those days so I want to expose my kids to as much nature as I possibly could.
Now that I am back to work again, it’s equally tiring but I really treasure those precious moments where the kids & me only have each other for company. There are many nights where I almost tore my hair out because they refused to sleep and I was so, so tired but I somehow managed, one day at one time.
I know there are tough moments or periods in motherhood/parenting sometimes. I know that at times, it does feel like it is a thankless job, but when the going gets tough, I always tell myself it *will* be over soon and I know I will be able to overcome this, even if it is one minute at a time. How worse can it get right? It is all about positivism and I hope that when you have some tough parenting moment, keep in mind that it would definitely be better!
And that you would be rewarded with smiles like that..
There would *always* be a rainbow after the rain, right? Rainbows are all about optical illusions, so parenting is all about positive mindset. It’s same same, but different, but you get the gist.
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32 Comments
Jingxian
sleepless nights when they are sick. you have to constantly wake up to check on them and the next day, you have to stay alert to care for them.
get family to support when you can. help is always appreciated.
Irene Soh
has to be when sophia is a newborn and isaac was down with HFMD. And to make matters worst, Kitson is not in town. I spend the entire week shuttling between rooms, bathing, changing and washing hands. God grief!! Thank god Sophia was well and did not caught the virus at all!!
Rosalie parnes
When all of my 3 kids got sick at the same time and my husband was on a business trip and i dont have a maid!!!
Cherie
Wow. that sounds like tough. No other family support that can help out? I know being without a maid is tough, but I kinda enjoy it because I eel I’m closer to the kids and know what’s exactly going on in their lives.
Phyllis Tan
When both kids cry and only want mummy and Daddy is out of town!
Cherie
OH man. I can empathise. My kids all want mummy when they cry.. can get very tiring. Kudos to you for surviving!
Thazin
When my toddler decides to poo while diaper-less and thinks its fun to run around the house… omg it was a nightmare..!
Cherie
OMG. That happened with my kid at my mum’s place. i know what kind of NIGHTMARE you are talking about. Sure stinks the house. It sure is some experience…
Lee Ying Ying
when my daughter got cellulitis in June and had to be warded in Kkh. I was 2 months pregnant then. Had to stay with her in hospital for 2 nights…
Cherie
Oh no.. I hope you weren’t hit with nauseas and morning sickness. If i were you, I’ll probably be so sick that I cannot do anything else. Great job for surviving that tough period.
Jess (Zhen)
Fight with one toy. So I have to ask them to take turn to play with it otherwise will keep it or giveaway to others.
Cherie
This is pretty common. It happens to me daily.. Is that one of your toughest parenting moment?
Rivr Wee
When husband is at work and I am home alone with a crying baby whose pooped dirtied our bed~ Just got to laugh it off and do one thing at a time: clean baby 1st then chane bedsheet…zzz
Cherie
Oh man! I hate poop on bed! Kudos for you being about to laugh it off. 🙂
Robert Sim
Worst parenting moment is probably when the boys all fight and start a screaming match. What did I do? I just let them be. Let them vent all they wanted or needed to vent, until they had calmed down.
Cherie
Wah. Do you watch them closely while they fight in case someone gets injured or let them be? I think I might take an ice cream and sit by the sidelines and watch them fight. The fight would probably stop immediately (lure of ice cream).
Carol Lim
When I was working in the busiest week of the entire year, and my hubby went on high-key reservist – ICT!! Solo parenting three kids is no fun.
Cherie
I am already struggling with 2, I find those with 3 or all quite amazing!
jiajun
i always use countdown days to hope my lone parenting will be over soon. too tiring to look after all 3 on my own!
Cherie
I do the same too! but sometimes, if it is too long a period.. it does feel like eternity and in those situations, I just try not to think and live in the moment. 🙂
Estella
It should be taking care of Joy when I had post natal depression and hubs was away in China on business for the entire month.
Cherie
post natal depression sound horrible. Glad that you survived it all and emerged stronger! Rely more on family support, sometimes, it is hard to do it all alone. 🙂
rose teo
When my son decided to sit on the floor of NTUC and screamed because I did not agree on his choice of snack. I survived by having thick skin!
Cherie
Haha, this is funny! My son does that too.. except he doesn’t scream. I usually leave him to be, and not have any reaction so that the kid knows he won’t get anything out of doing that, except wasting time. 🙂
teo kai sin
When my daughter was hospitalised for a week in KK, its a nightmare and super tiring for us. cope by with supportive employer and parent in laws.
Cherie
bonus points for employer there. I’ve been there too, alternate camping in the hospital to accompany the kid. Weren’t you glad that you came out of it stronger?
Koh peng jek
worst moment is always when my daughter fell sick, then followed by my wife. I take vitamin C to ensure that I have strong immunity to handle taking care of 2 sick ones!
Cherie
Oh man. i hate it when the virus attacks the family instead of just 1 person. Thank goodness the virus didn’t get to you! Must have been really tough.
Fion teo
When kids fell sick and your hubby was overseas is the most tiring! Survived with help from helper and parent in laws
Cherie
I know exactly how that feels. My husband is often overseas and I feel overwhelmed. Good that you had great support network there.
teo hock koon
When I was posted overseas for 1 years while my kids were young. Having a supportive and trusting wife is important
Cherie
Hi Hock Koon, wow. It must have been tough on the both of you. I can’t imagine how that would feel. It’s like a test of patience, love and trust all at the same time.
Am sure you both are glad that you survived it! 🙂