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My parenting style – empower the kids!

By |January 15th, 2018|

I’m back on the blog again! 2 weeks into 2018 and I hope I am making good progress in “reviving” my blog. It’s rather random, adhoc posts for now but I figure I just gotta start somewhere after being rusty for so long! My thoughts today is about empowering my kids – teaching them to fish rather than to hand them the fishes when they are hungry.

I have come to realise, that in this fast paced and stressful environment that we parents are in today, we often make the mistake of “doing” stuff for our kids without even thinking about the consequences, or even aware if there is any consequences. It’s just more efficient, faster and more convenient to us. Some of these activities may include things like…

  • cleaning up after our kids after they have their meals
  • packing their school bags for them and checking their timetables
  • cleaning up […]

First week of 2018 – Jerry starts P1!

By |January 8th, 2018|

The biggest change for the year is actually having a Primary 1 schooling kid. It wrecks instills schedules, requires a lot more planning, and things are getting a little more regimental in the household as compared to the past, where we were slightly more easy and not so sticky about routines.

To be honest, I didn’t quite prep my kid on anything. I did attempt to teach him some money matters – identifying the coins and notes and some adding and subtracting exercises but mostly, I wasn’t too consistent on any of those! I didn’t think he learnt much. Oops.

Just the day before the school started, I was still checking the orientation notes and trying to make sure I read everything necessary and putting names on some of the textbooks and sorting them. I sorta packed them for Jerry and then realised my (over-protective) folly and got Jerry to identify […]

Jerome goes to the market!

By |January 4th, 2015|

It’s going to be a picture spam of Jerome heading to the market with me while I was solo parenting some weeks back, more for the benefit of the husband who missed all these.

I had to do the school run every morning to bring Jerry to school. The problem is, I also have to lug Jerome wherever I go, so this is the sight every other morning.

Jerry’s school is actually near my mum’s place and not mine, so I shifted into my mum’s place (everyone is away travelling) to save myself from driving the 2 kids to and fro everyday.  Saved me a lot of time actually, but of cos, I miss the comfort of lounging in my own place.

Jerome runs to the playground to have some fun while Jerry is being dropped off every morning. He sure loves the playground.. but not so much […]

My little boy, Jerome.

By |December 20th, 2014|

Today is a day that I rejoice! Finally, the 3 weeks of solo parenting is OVER! The government returned my husband to me last night and even though I was stuck in a class till almost midnight, there is so much to be happy about!

One of them is, of cos, moving back into my own home later today. Can’t wait. I miss my bed!

While the solo parenting has been somewhat tough and extremely tiring, I got to bond a lot with my little kid, Jerome.

He was stuck to me at the hip almost everyday when I was on leave for a week and boy, did we have fun! I also realised that I haven’t had the chance to pay more attention to him as I had with Jerry, but I learned so much more about him during the week we both were stuck together 24/7.

It’s really quite amazing.

I found out […]

Jerry faces the wall.

By |November 16th, 2014|

The most unthinkable thing happened yesterday. One of our biggest fear…

Jerry drew on our white walls with a marker. 

I don’t have a picture of the drawing on the wall. I was scrubbing some dirty socks in the toilet when I heard the husband screamed in hysterics. Something he hasn’t done before and I instinctively knew something bad happened.

I rushed to the room with the scrub in my hand, saw the drawing and almost fainted. I just immediately used the scrub that I was holding in my hand to try and scrub it clean, with minimal results. The husband was screaming away at the kid, and my mind was working as fast as I could on clearing the mess, which is why I didn’t have a picture.

Here’s roughly how it looked like. I draw a similar drawing with my Note 3 based on what I remembered on a picture after […]

Things Jerry Says #21 – I am so proud of you!

By |October 10th, 2014|

As a ftwm (full-time working mum), I often struggle between the responsibilities at work as well as the splitting my time between a mummy, a wife, a home maker, maintaining a blog and a whole lot more of responsibilities in between. I previously wrote about the struggles of being a ftwm here and here but today, I will tell you a conversation that tugged at my heart strings.

One that makes me wonder if I should stop working and really spend time with the kid in his growing up years. There is just so many years that the kid needs you before they are off to explore the world and doesn’t want a naggy or unhip mother at his back.

I have been working late for the past weeks, often getting home a lot later than the kids. Sometimes, […]

Hitting a parenting low.

By |August 28th, 2014|

I have been quiet on this space. A lot more quieter than I would like actually. These days, a lot of thought go through my mind. Some of which I have solutions for, some of which, I am completely helpless at.

I think I am very good at doing one thing – just grit my teeth and just trudging on.

The time doesn’t wait, and people just need to survive. Even though I am tired, the clock still ticks away. Even though I am sick from the lack of the sleep, the kids still need to eat/drink and interact with me. Even though I came home late and haven’t had my dinner, I still had to ensure I put them into bed.

This was last night this morning. The kids is still refusing to sleep after me trying to put them into bed for 2 hours. They each drank at least 2 bottles […]

My very own Harry Potter!

By |June 1st, 2014|

I’m such a Harry Potter fan and i’m so excited to announce… I now have my very own Harry Potter!

We sorta have an accident in the household just 3 nights ago and this is the result of it. What happened?!  Well, here’s what.

At the strike of midnight, Lord Voldemort came into my bedroom and attacked him! I heard a thud, and then loud, shrieking cries.

I’m joking. My dear son, was asleep beside me and he suddenly ROLLED off the bed. It was so dark and I quickly got down to pick him up and thought he was crying a lot harder than usual. At the same time, I thought i heard other sounds before the thud.

I stared at his face in the dark and saw a patch of black stuff over his forehead. I ran to the lights, flicked it on only to realise… its blood. Loads of blood.

The entire […]

I’m wrong. So so wrong.

By |May 17th, 2014|

So I got it all wrong.

I don’t know if I ever mentioned this before. . But jerry has got this really irritating habit when he sleeps. He likes to climb on top of me, my legs, my butt and just wedge himself at any corner or nook that he can find between my body/arms/legs and all if he is co-sleeping with me.

It’s bloody irritating to me because I cannot sleep with him pressing down on me! At all!

He hasn’t been co-sleeping much with me now that we are staying in our own place, but I sometimes find him on my bed in the mornings. He wakes in the middle of the night and somehow finds himself into our bedroom (and closes the door behind him), climbs onto our bed and wedge himself between the husband and me.

Anyway… last night.. I realised I got it all wrong. All all wrong.

As […]

Things Jerry says #4 – the power of negotiation.

By |February 24th, 2014|

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Things Jerry says: The negotiator

I can’t emphasise how much this kid amaze me all the time. I know that I said it many many times, but I guess I still need to say it mainly because I am so proud of him (or annoyed!) and it is a moment worth recording down. And mummies are always proud of their little one, however small an achievement because to us, they mean the world.

A couple of days ago, this kid isn’t on the best of behaviour. He refused to comply to any instruction and we were rushing out of the house for a party.  I needed him to sit in his car seat but all he did was scream, grab at me, kick and struggle.

Grrrrr!

In situations like this.. I had to dangle a carrot to get compliance…

(After struggling for what seems like ages)

Me: jerry! […]